Sometimes, things just don’t work out. Maybe you attended couple’s counseling, and just happened to fall into the 3% of couples who were unable to receive the help and support they needed; maybe time changed too much, and you’re both different people. Either way, you’re facing a new, divorced life and you’re not feeling great about it.
It is completely normal to want to shake things up a bit; you’ve gotten used to a life that has changed in its entirety, so why not change yourself? Since a dip in self-confidence tends to coincide with divorce for both men and women, plastic surgery might be just the change you need. Let’s take a look at what you need to know before pursuing any cosmetic procedures.
What Are Your Motivations?
Just over 19% of couples say they divorced due to incompatibility, and 10.6% blamed drinking or drug abuse. Whatever the reason, breaking up is hard. You may feel like you’ve failed, both as a spouse and as a parent. The final proceedings and custody rulings (the non-custodial parent will have an average of 88 days with the child per year) can really take a lot out of you physically and emotionally; it’s important that your head be in the right place if you’re interested in altering your appearance.
“It is not uncommon for me to have a consultation with someone where I end up recommending that they wait on having a surgical procedure,” said Dr. Michael A. Epstein, a Chicago North Shore-based Board Certified Plastic Surgeon who has been practicing for 28 years. “They could be in a place where they are emotionally vulnerable or the stress and lifestyle at that particular time in their lives is not appropriate to allow them to be able to recover and heal successfully.”
If you want to make this change for yourself as a physical representation of a fresh start and a new chapter in your life, you will undoubtedly feel empowered by the time you’re fully recovered.
What Procedures Are You Interested In?
For women, there are three top choices for post-divorce plastic surgery: breast augmentation, liposuction, and a combination breast lift/tummy tuck surgery commonly referred to as the “mommy makeover.” Breast augmentation was the most popular plastic surgery procedure among all body procedures in 2016, with 290,467 procedures performed, but your decision should be made based on personal desires; whatever is going to make you feel the most comfortable and confident in your own skin is worth researching and learning about!
For men, hair loss is the predominant issue. Common male pattern baldness is responsible for over 95% of hair loss in men; considering the fact that thick, healthy hair is typically associated with masculinity and power, balding can cause serious damage to one’s self-esteem and self-confidence. No matter what gender you are or what procedure you’re interested in, it’s crucial that you do your research ahead of time — which includes scheduling a consultation with a certified plastic surgeon.
A national survey conducted by the National Women’s Health Resource Center found that more than 40% of women sought to improve their physical appearance after a divorce or other significant life transitions. You’re not alone in your desires! Provided you’ve done your research and are making this change for yourself, cosmetic surgery post-divorce is nothing to be ashamed of.