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Last Updated on April 4, 2019
When a family member is struggling with a problem, it affects everyone else directly or indirectly. This creates pressure and stress that can only lead to more harm or break the family up completely. You can identify the affected person by his or her behavior.
Some people indulge in drugs and, if not detected early, they may end up with addictions. Others disconnect with the rest of the family members and choose to stay away alone. Below are ways to help such family member:
1) Talking Works Magic
Family members suffering from a problem might deny it or fail to recognize the extent and effects it has on them and others. You can plan for an intervention to try to make them see the problem and make arrangements on how to deal with it. The process requires proper planning to ensure they do not feel attacked.
Involve only the concerned parties to create a conducive environment to communicate freely. This helps everyone open up about an issue and its effect on them and on other underlying issues that might have triggered the problem. During this time, you can convince the individual to change or seek help to deal with the problem.
2) Seek Professional Assistance
When a problem gets out of hand, you can try seeking professional assistance. This can be for the individual family member or all. Professional assistance helps can also be applied when trying to curb a problem before it gets worse. You can make the family member seek help voluntarily or trick them into it doing it. Most people who seek help take longer to accept. You can persuade them to change their mind. You can also incorporate a professional in normal situations and normal set up if they fail to create time for the professions.
3) Offer Additional Help
Depending on what the family member is suffering from, it is possible to reduce the effects of their problem by offering assistance. This reduces the weight on their shoulders leaving them more relaxed and free from worry. Assistance offered can be financial, emotional, or even spiritual. While assisting them, avoid publicizing it as this can make them more uncomfortable. When you are not in a position to assist them, inform them early enough to ensure that they adjust and make changes where necessary.
4) Keep Them off Triggers
While a family member is dealing with a problem, support their journey by avoiding the triggers. These triggers can be situations, places or people that can be hard to cope with when around. You can also stay away from the triggers that affect them to avoid tempting them further or leaving them uncomfortable. Avoid arguing and outbursts because this can lead them back to the hole they are trying to crawl out of. In case the affected family member has a drugs and substance abuse problem, do not use any drugs in their presence.
The outcome while helping a family member can differ. You might expect positive change but end up with much worse results. This should be anticipated to avoid stressing the rest of the family members. It can also cause lifetime feuds and bad blood when the parties involved feel disrespected or attacked.