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Last Updated on August 12, 2022
If not being able to “fit in” makes you feel nervous, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. In fact, many of the people you see all around you feel the same way. People will often pretend to be someone they’re not in order to fit in. Even though this might work in the short term, it’s not a good idea in the long run. You’ll be miserable hiding your true self, and you’ll miss out on so many fun things in life you want to do but are afraid to because of what other people will think.
This is why it’s so important to be yourself and show how unique you are. This may be a hard step to take, especially if you’ve been hiding who you really are for a long time, but it’s an important one. Read on to learn how to do it and make your life better.
Stay True To Yourself
Everyone has different skills and traits that make them who they are. If you hide these parts of yourself for any reason, you’re not being true to who you are and accepting everything you can do. Often, we don’t show these talents because we’re afraid of what other people will think or say. It’s easy to say that this doesn’t matter, but of course, it does. The thoughts and judgments of others don’t matter, yet they can have a profound impact on how you live your life.
This is why you should stay true to yourself and do the things you like and are good at. If you’re worried about what other people will think, just take it slowly and don’t tell them all at once. Or don’t tell them at all. If you want to play with Lego, if you love watching ASMR videos on YouTube, if you like coloring in pictures like you did as a child, or anything else, and you don’t think other people will understand, why tell them at all? Just do what you want and don’t worry about other people. You’ll feel better if you do that.
Find A Hobby You Love
Everyone should have at least one hobby that they really enjoy and look forward to doing. It adds a lot of variety to your life, keeps your brain active, makes you happy, and, depending on the hobby, can even help you stay fit and healthy. Hobbies are very good for you.
The important thing is to find a hobby you enjoy, not one that someone else told you would be good for you or that you only do because your friends do it. If you choose a hobby just because everyone else is doing it, but you don’t really like it, you won’t get any benefits from it. In fact, you’ll feel more stressed and down because you’ll dread having to do it. So, regardless of what your friends are doing, think about what you’re passionate about and choose a pastime that matches with that. You’ll meet new people who share your interests, so you won’t be lonely if that’s a concern, and you’ll be a lot happier when you select something for yourself rather than to make someone else happy.
Have Unique Home Décor
Everyone has a place to live. You’ll either own or rent a place to live, or you’ll have your own room. In all of these cases, the way you decorate and furnish your home can really show who you are. However, if you rent, you may need to ask your landlord for permission to change the way you decorate, and you may have to stick to using your furniture and small items to show who you are.
As mentioned above, you shouldn’t worry about what other people want or expect when you’re thinking of fun and interesting ways to decorate your home. You shouldn’t just follow the latest trends either, unless you love them and would be happy living in a house decorated that way. Choose colors and items that make you happy and make you feel good. You should choose things that fit your style and show off your personality. When you do this, you can feel completely at home, which is a lot more important than most people think, especially for your mental health.
Wear Clothing That Fits Your Personal Style
Have you ever worn a piece of clothing or an outfit that you didn’t like and was uncomfortable in, but it was trendy, and everyone else was wearing it? If so, how did you feel? There’s a good chance you felt like you couldn’t be yourself. Maybe you weren’t productive because you were thinking too much about the clothes and not enough about your work or family. Can you see how much better it is to wear clothes that fit your style so you can be comfortable and enjoy letting your personality shine through your clothes?
It’s getting easier to do this now that so many people can work from home. We can wear whatever clothes make us feel the best. But even if you have to wear a uniform or follow a dress code at work, you can still show your personality through jewelry, makeup, shoes, or other accessories. Even your hair can say something about you. If you can be yourself as much as possible, your life will be much more fun.
Change Your Hair
We briefly mentioned hair above, and now it’s time to go into more detail. Hair has always been a way to show who you are, especially since there are so many different ways to style it. If you like the way your hair looks with a traditional cut and don’t want to change it, keep doing what you know and love. But if you want to try something new, cutting or dying your hair might be just the thing.
Cut your long hair into a bob if you want to demonstrate who you are. It’s just hair, and it always grows back, so even if you’re not convinced, you can change it again in the not too distant future. You can also be brave and show off your individuality by dying your hair a bright color like magenta, pink, or green. Or, you can stick with conventional hair colors and just adjust them a little. For example, take a look at these 50 blonde balayage hair colors that’ll make you want to go lighter to see just what we mean.
People can tell a lot about your interests and style from how you look and how you decorate your home, but showing your personality is about much more than just how you look. You should be sure enough of yourself to speak up for yourself. This might mean you have to argue with people whose morals are different from yours, but it will help you stay true to who you are.
You might not like gossip, but you overhear a group talking about someone you know. You don’t have to stand there and act like you can’t hear them; you can speak up. On a bigger scale, you can get involved with social justice issues that matter to you and let other people know what you think.
Be Your Best Self
When we show the world who we really are, we usually feel happier and more sure of ourselves. At first, it might be scary to find your own style and show it off, especially if it doesn’t fit with current trends. But who cares? It’s your life, and you’ll live it however you want to.