Sex in a Pan
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Last Updated on August 1, 2025
Sex in a pan; it’s a crazy name for a dessert and no one’s really sure where the name comes from, but it is a really delicious dish that is great for any occasion. This Sex in Pan recipe has six decadent layers for you to enjoy.
Sex in a pan; it’s a crazy name for a dessert.
Traditionally it’s made with six layers: a pecan and flour crust, a cream cheese layer, instant vanilla pudding, instant chocolate pudding, whipped cream, and shaved chocolate.
It’s truly decadent.
This paleo-fied version is just as amazing, without the need for grains, refined sugar, dairy, or anything instant or packaged.
My family could not believe it was dairy-free; and asked me to make it again soon!
Another awesome thing about this recipe is that it’s full of healthy fats from coconut milk, coconut oil, avocado, and dark chocolate.
It’s quite a satisfying dessert and a great way to end any meal.
What you need to make this Sex in a Pan recipe
Ingredients
Crust:
- 1/4 cup finely chopped raw pecans
- 1/3 cup coconut oil, softened
- 1/3 cup coconut flour
- 1 tablespoon B grade maple syrup
“Cream Cheese” Layer:
- 3/4 cup coconut cream
- 3 tablespoons coconut butter
- 3 tablespoons B grade maple syrup
- 2 tablespoons coconut flour
- pinch of sea salt
- 1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
Vanilla Layer:
- 1 cup thick coconut milk
- 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
- 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
- 1/4 cup coconut oil, melted
Chocolate Layer:
- 1 ripe avocado
- 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
- 1/3 cup coconut cream
- 1/2 cup chopped dark chocolate, melted
- pinch of sea salt
Cream layer:
- 1/2 cup coconut cream or heavy whipping cream, whipped
Garnish:
- Shaved dark chocolate
Whatever you call this dessert, be sure to make this Paleo version; the flaky pecan crust, creamy “cheese” and chocolate layers, and whipped coconut cream are just as scrumptious as the original!
Sex in a Pan
Silky and rich, this Sex in the pan is deliciously indulgent You'll love every bite.
Ingredients
Crust:
- 1/4 cup finely chopped raw pecans
- 1/3 cup coconut oil softened
- 1/3 cup coconut flour
- 1 tablespoon B grade maple syrup
“Cream Cheese” Layer:
- 3/4 cup coconut cream
- 3 tablespoons coconut butter
- 3 tablespoons B grade maple syrup
- 2 tablespoons coconut flour
- pinch of sea salt
- 1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
Vanilla Layer:
- 1 cup thick coconut milk
- 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
- 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
- 1/4 cup coconut oil melted
Chocolate Layer:
- 1 ripe avocado
- 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
- 1/3 cup coconut cream
- 1/2 cup chopped dark chocolate melted
- pinch of sea salt
Cream layer:
- 1/2 cup coconut cream or heavy whipping cream whipped
Garnish:
- Shaved dark chocolate
Instructions
Crust:
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In a mixing bowl, combine all crust ingredients and mix well.
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Press into the the bottom of an 8″x8″ glass baking dish and pop in the freezer while you prepare the next layer.
“Cream Cheese” Layer:
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Combine all the “cream cheese” layer ingredients in a mixing bowl and mix well. Spread over the crust.
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Put the pan back in the freezer.
Vanilla layer:
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Combine all vanilla layer ingredients in a mixing bowl and mix well. Spread over “Cream Cheese” layer.
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Put the pan back in the freezer.
Chocolate layer:
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Combine all chocolate layer ingredients in a food processor and process until very smooth.
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Carefully spread over vanilla layer; place pan back in freezer.
Cream Layer:
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Whip the cream; spread over chocolate layer in pan.
Garnish:
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Top liberally with shaved dark chocolate.
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Chill in the fridge for a few hours or overnight before serving.
My mom makes a lemon version of sex in a pan for my birthday every year and its incredible! I love this grain-free version! Definetly trying it soon!
I can’t have avocado. What can I sub for this?
Banana might work Anna
For coconut cream, do you refrigerate full fat coconut milk (canned) then whip the thick cream part or is this something you can buy?
The cheapest way is to refrigerate the full fat coconut milk. You can buy the cream by itself here –> https://amzn.to/1tvFL01
I’m confused. Doesn’t dark chocolate have sugar and possibly some milk? Or, are you talking about unsweetened dark chocolate bars? If so, wouldn’t it taste bad on the top?
Desiree, there are dairy free dark chocolate chips on the market you can use for this recipe.
I loved this recipe, but it’s worth noting that I had to double the quantities of each layer. That is unless you want super super super thin layers. I used real cream cheese for the cream cheese layer and heavy whipping cream for the top. Everything else I kept the same, but just doubled the quantity to make it spread across an 8×8 pan – otherwise it would barely cover it. Thank you for the recipe, it was a crowd pleaser and i’ll Definitely be making it again!
Thanks for sharing!