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Last Updated on November 29, 2020

Sex in a pan; it’s a crazy name for a dessert and no one’s really sure where the name comes from, but it is a really delicious dish that is great for any occasion. This Sex in Pan recipe has six decadent layers for you to enjoy.

A slice of sex in a pan on a plate with a fork

Sex in a pan; it’s a crazy name for a dessert. 

Traditionally it’s made with six layers: a pecan and flour crust, a cream cheese layer, instant vanilla pudding, instant chocolate pudding, whipped cream, and shaved chocolate.

 It’s truly decadent.

This paleo-fied version is just as amazing, without the need for grains, refined sugar, dairy, or anything instant or packaged.

 My family could not believe it was dairy-free; and asked me to make it again soon!

A slice of sex in a Pan on a plate with a fork

Another awesome thing about this recipe is that it’s full of healthy fats from coconut milk, coconut oil, avocado, and dark chocolate.

 It’s quite a satisfying dessert and a great way to end any meal.

What you need to make this Sex in a Pan recipe

Ingredients

Crust:

  • 1/4 cup finely chopped raw pecans
  • 1/3 cup coconut oil, softened
  • 1/3 cup coconut flour
  • 1 tablespoon B grade maple syrup

“Cream Cheese” Layer:

  • 3/4 cup coconut cream
  • 3 tablespoons coconut butter
  • 3 tablespoons B grade maple syrup
  • 2 tablespoons coconut flour
  • pinch of sea salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon lemon juice

Vanilla Layer:

  • 1 cup thick coconut milk
  • 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
  • 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
  • 1/4 cup coconut oil, melted

Chocolate Layer:

  • 1 ripe avocado
  • 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
  • 1/3 cup coconut cream
  • 1/2 cup chopped dark chocolate, melted
  • pinch of sea salt

Cream layer:

  • 1/2 cup coconut cream or heavy whipping cream, whipped

Garnish:

  • Shaved dark chocolate
Fork cutting in to a slice of Sex in a Pan on a plate

Whatever you call this dessert, be sure to make this Paleo version; the flaky pecan crust, creamy “cheese” and chocolate layers, and whipped coconut cream are just as scrumptious as the original!

up close photo of Sex in a Pan on a fork with a slice in the background.
Paleo Sex in a Pan
Yield: 9 servings

Sex in a Pan

Prep Time: 30 minutes
Cook Time: 30 minutes
Additional Time: 4 hours
Total Time: 5 hours

Silky and rich, this Sex in the pan is deliciously indulgent You'll love every bite.

Ingredients

Crust:

"Cream Cheese" Layer:

Vanilla Layer:

Chocolate Layer:

  • 1 ripe avocado
  • 1/4 cup B grade maple syrup
  • 1/3 cup coconut cream
  • 1/2 cup chopped dark chocolate, melted
  • pinch of sea salt

Cream layer:

Garnish:

  • Shaved dark chocolate

Instructions

Crust:

  1. In a mixing bowl, combine all crust ingredients and mix well.
  2. Press into the the bottom of an 8"x8" glass baking dish and pop in the freezer while you prepare the next layer.

"Cream Cheese" Layer:

  1. Combine all the "cream cheese" layer ingredients in a mixing bowl and mix well. Spread over the crust.
  2. Put the pan back in the freezer.

Vanilla layer:

  1. Combine all vanilla layer ingredients in a mixing bowl and mix well. Spread over "Cream Cheese" layer.
  2. Put the pan back in the freezer.

Chocolate layer:

  1. Combine all chocolate layer ingredients in a food processor and process until very smooth.
  2. Carefully spread over vanilla layer; place pan back in freezer.

Cream Layer:

  1. Whip the cream; spread over chocolate layer in pan.

Garnish:

  1. Top liberally with shaved dark chocolate.
  2. Chill in the fridge for a few hours or overnight before serving.

Nutrition Information:

Yield:

9

Serving Size:

1

Amount Per Serving: Calories: 711Total Fat: 50gSaturated Fat: 33gTrans Fat: 0gUnsaturated Fat: 14gCholesterol: 5mgSodium: 67mgCarbohydrates: 65gFiber: 5gSugar: 53gProtein: 5g

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Kelly

Saturday 4th of August 2018

I loved this recipe, but it’s worth noting that I had to double the quantities of each layer. That is unless you want super super super thin layers. I used real cream cheese for the cream cheese layer and heavy whipping cream for the top. Everything else I kept the same, but just doubled the quantity to make it spread across an 8x8 pan - otherwise it would barely cover it. Thank you for the recipe, it was a crowd pleaser and i’ll Definitely be making it again!

Kelly Bejelly

Friday 7th of September 2018

Thanks for sharing!

Desiree Bedford

Thursday 3rd of November 2016

I'm confused. Doesn't dark chocolate have sugar and possibly some milk? Or, are you talking about unsweetened dark chocolate bars? If so, wouldn't it taste bad on the top?

Kelly Bejelly

Sunday 13th of November 2016

Desiree, there are dairy free dark chocolate chips on the market you can use for this recipe.

Erica

Wednesday 1st of June 2016

For coconut cream, do you refrigerate full fat coconut milk (canned) then whip the thick cream part or is this something you can buy?

Kelly Bejelly

Sunday 19th of June 2016

The cheapest way is to refrigerate the full fat coconut milk. You can buy the cream by itself here --> http://amzn.to/1tvFL01

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Sunday 6th of March 2016

I can't have avocado. What can I sub for this?

Kelly Bejelly

Sunday 20th of March 2016

Banana might work Anna

Bethany @ Athletic Avocado

Friday 12th of February 2016

My mom makes a lemon version of sex in a pan for my birthday every year and its incredible! I love this grain-free version! Definetly trying it soon!

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