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Last Updated on October 13, 2022
Life has its way with us all. For some, that’s a very fortunate thing. For others, not so much. Everyone will have their misfortune, however, and it’s what we do with this that helps define who we are and what we learn. That said, you can’t be strong 100% of the time, so don’t beat yourself up if you’ve found yourself to be lacking, just brush off your shoullder and move on. This is a mark of growth.
However, it’s also true to say that from time to time, misfortune and tough events can leave us feeling breathless. We may just be crying out for a break, and we may even be semi-entitled to one after some time. Of course, thinking that is a bad idea, and instead taking action can help us mediate the best way forward.
But what should we do when we feel we can’t get a break in life? We try to make our own break, as it were. In this post, we’ll discuss some steps any man can take in order to get his life back together or move on from whatever it is that’s bothering him.
You’ve Survived Everything Thus Far
It’s important to recall that when life feels tough, when everything seems to be piling on, and frankly when you’re tired of it all, it’s good to remember that you’ve survived all of your bad days so far and have kept on, and in that time have no doubt had some good days and beautiful experiences. This helps you draw strength where you may need it, and helps you take an overhead look at the temporary nature of this current situation.
Mistakes Don’t Have To Swallow You Whole
Mistakes are natural to make. No matter if you need help with an ignition interlock violation or you feel that the end of a relationship has been your fault, it’s okay to overcome this, to not beat yourself up, and to try and pivot towards something new. It’s perfectly acceptable to be weak and make mistakes, provided you try and grow and do your best to avoid making the same one without learning. This way, you can avoid them swallowing you whole, or feel as if you somehow deserve not to change. Some positive self-regard goes a long way, even if you have to fake it til you make it.
Choose Your Attitude, Don’t Let It Choose You
Stoic philosophy tells us that it’s impossible for us to have control over everything in our lives, but we can change our attitude to it, and in that we find strength. As such, you get to decide how you’ll respond to certain situations and how they inspire you to act. After a relationship ends, for instance, it’s tempting to eat too much, to drink too much, and to indulge in bad habits, but it can be healthier to get into the gym, to find a perfect sleeping pattern, to keep reading, and to write down our emotions when they come out. Here you will feel like a captain sailing a robust boat in the storm, rather than trying to swim to the surface.
With this advice, we hope you can gain the break in life you most likely deserve.